One reason I believe marriage is often difficult today, we are in such a hurry to start our life together. We quickly engage steps 4,5,& 6 of a marriage, and never return to solidify steps 1,2,& 3. These initial steps involve taking time to set our course in marriage, to articulate our desires and plans, to align our marriage with each other and the Creator of the concept, Jesus Christ. It’s never too late.
How would you answer the following question?
“If God had his way in our marriage, in our home, in our future, what would it look like?”
Far too often retreats, resources and materials address marriage solely from a “how to” standpoint, addressing what turns out to be symptoms of a “lack of vision” and direction rather than meeting us at our true need.
INTENTIONALLY HIS is a couple’s intensive in discerning, discussing and articulating God’s vision for your marriage in such a way that all other conversations, plans and dreams have a center focus.
- If asked about the future of your marriage, your relationship, your friendships, your kids, would you and your spouse share the same vision?
- If your kids were asked about the boundaries, the expectations and values you desire in your home, would they be able to articulate these concepts clearly based on your leadership.
- What would it be like to have these ideas discovered and articulated on paper to refer back to when the pace of life seems to run your world?
- Can you articulate precisely the vision each of your children and your spouse have for themselves, or are they expected to live out your vision for them?